Hey lovelies,
After yesterday's heavier post, I'm in the mood for something much lighter today! So let's talk about something that I experienced during my freshman year of college which was a roommate with a serious boyfriend. Because I lived suite-style, I had 3 other roommates. One of them kept to herself a lot, but the other two quickly became some of my best college friends.
They both had serious boyfriends. One of their significant others didn't go to our school and would only visit occasionally and the other one's boyfriend lived down the hall from us.
Let me start off by saying that both of them are great guys and with the equally awesome girls, they make some of the most successful couples that I know. However, I have heard the horror stories that some of my friends living with not so pleasant couples have experienced and I just wanted to share some of the things that we did in order to avoid awkward situations for all of us.
Let's start with my actual roommate who has the boyfriend at a different school. Because he would only come visit about once a month and only for a weekend at a time, it's pretty obvious that while he was visiting, they wanted to spend a lot of time with each other. Although she was always super sweet about extending the warm invitation for me to join them on their days out, I usually tried to just let them have their time and hang out with them during more informal things like football games after dinner Starbucks runs. In addition, during those weekends that he visited, I tried to get myself out of the room as much as possible. Although I never had to do it because I felt awkward or uncomfortable, this could also be a good strategy for someone who doesn't get along with her roommate as well as I did. By making sure that I just found other things to do on the weekends I knew he was visiting, I not only gave them the breathing room I'm sure they appreciated (our rooms are tiny!) as well as giving myself little to no time to mope around feeling bad because I'm still looking for the prince charming that she's already found. If you do plan on spending time out of your room, make sure you tell your roommate where you're going and what time you think you'll be back so she doesn't freak out if you're not home at usual 11 PM and also so she can budget her time and makes sure she gets her gushy love bug time out of the way while you're not in the room.
Moving onto my suitemate with the boyfriend down the hall, I have to say that she did a much better job handling this living situation than a lot of my friends roommates did, as referenced by their horror stories and sleepless nights spent arguing eighth less accommodating roommates. My suitemate used to ask us every day if it was okay for her boyfriend to come over, no matter what time of day it was. She continued to do this even after we told her that we didn't care when he came over and although we eventually got her to stop asking, she remained polite and courteous about everything. This politeness that she showed at the beginning of the year made us more comfortable about him being in the room and he ended up being a really good friend to us as well. Because he was there every weekend, it would be a little ridiculous for us to think that we should avoid the room to give them space. In exchange for this, we would sometimes walk in on cuddle sessions in front of romantic comedies, but because they were always willing to share the popcorn and make room on the couch for everyone, it was never awkward for anyone.
So as you can see, dealing with roommates with boyfriends doesn't have to be a chore! In fact if it's handled well you might even end up with some great guy friends and stories like I did. Of course a lot of this is dependent on the willingness of your roommate to cooperate and respect you (I definitely lucked out) but with a little communication, hopefully you too can have a hassle free relationship with her significant other.
Love,
Ranjini
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